purehell's Diaryland Diary ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Mike admitted they were having Sex Okay, i think im finally ready to release some of this tremendous pain that i carry. Mike called me about a week ago. We only get to talk for 15 minutes at a time while he's deployed oversees. Towards the end of that short conversation i mention to him that i notice he purchased a book from amazon because they sent the confirmation and receipt to our home email address. The book he purchased was a book on affairs. A self help book that helps recover the marriage that has been torn apart by infidelity. I asked him if he's been reading it, he says yes. I asked him if he's learning anything from it, he says yes, alot. I asked him what he was learning? Now honestly, all his talk convincing me that all shauna and he had were lunches and talking and blah blah... so im thinking perhaps he's learning more about emotional affairs and how they are just as painfull as sexual affairs.....maybe he would tell me that he finally understands where im coming from? Nope. He says his time is up and asks me if he can call me right back. So ...saved by the bell i guess. Anyway, Mike admitted that he and shauna have been having a full blown sexual affair for almost 2 years. I had to sit down because my knees were too weak to hold my body up. I could almost see shauna and mike as if they were right in front of me laughing uncontrollably to my face. I had a million questions for him and he knew he was in for an attack of them that he must answer since he has now decided to be completely honest, "for real this time". I asked him if he loved her. Does she love you? Does boris know she's in love with you? Where would you fuck that whore? Ever at our house? Why at her house and not ours? Weren't you worried that boris would come home? How could you do this to Boris? How could you do this to me? How many times did you fuck that whore? A dozen times, 2 dozen?? How would you go about this? You would just drive to her house and hope boris wasnt there? Did you ever tell her that you loved her? Why should i forgive you Michael? You've told me that before michael. What makes this time any different? He went on to promise me that he will never communicate again with her. I asked him if he's finally willing to let her go now just because she's moving to another state soon. He told me no and i told him thats what it seemed like to me. He said that he didnt have to tell me at all about the sex, but that he did because he wanted to prove to me that he is going to be completely honest with me from now on, even if it means having to risk everything. He pleaded with me not to punish him with it, that it was so hard for him to do knowing that i could very well flip out and leave forever. He struggled with it but this book taught him that we cannot heal and make this marriage stronger without being completely honest. Such heartache and pain this man has caused me. I honestly dont know if i can heal from this. The pain is too intense and all i can see are images of him and her no matter how hard i try to push them aside. I told him that i couldnt make a decision yet. We are definitely seperating still and he will not live in this home when he returns. I told him it may take years before i know whether or not i can accept this and move forward. He said he will wait forever. We'll see i guess.
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